Woman Fantasies

Peter James
It shouldn't be surprising that women have fantasies also. Sometimes, they are more sexual than ours our. In this article we will discuss the top ten fantasies that women have. You will want to print this one out for future reference. Here we go, please pay attention! Having sex with strangers: This might sound odd, but women fantasize about this as well. Having sex with a complete stranger takes away the pressure. People feel like they don't have a standard they have to live with, since they won't be coming back for seconds. People engage in this type of sex because they feel that they won't be judged. The only thing they are after is getting their rocks off, so if it feels good, then there is no reason to judge.
The more people the better: Group sex can be exciting for a woman. I don't mean that they want you to call your buddies over for a gang bang. Women tend to like the idea of a bunch of nude people together having sex with their partners. Unless of course, they are into swinging.

* Are you my daddy? Some women like to be controlled or to control their partner. Sometimes they want to be spanked and told to yell out slogans or phrases. Sometimes they may want to spank you and have you suck on things.

* Having sex in public: This really turns some women on. The idea of someone else watching them in the heat of the moment in public can be a real turn on. Find a place that you can feel secure and bang the night away. She will love it.

* Domination: While I don't understand this one, a lot of people like it. Some women want to be told how and when to do things. She might like it when you tell her to lick your testicles and suck on your penis, I have known women who really get off on this sort of thing. Try it out, she might like it.

* Some women like to be roughed up a bit. They want you to hit them and tell them that you will hurt them if you don't have sex with them. I don't understand it, to me it sounds too much like rape. But what the hey, if it gets her off, that is all that matters.

* Having sex with another woman: This shouldn't be no big surprise. Women can be better at pleasing another woman. Most men like it, some don't. If your woman likes to do this and it turns you own, enjoy it. Lesbianism can be a beautiful thing. Have her invite friends over that will also allow you to participate. I have done this and it is great. After the first time you will be hooked. Hell, I can just sit and watch them go at it and I am in ecstasy.

* Being a hooker: It is the oldest profession in the world. Some people think it is dirty, some women find it to be a turn on. That is probably why there isn't a shortage of whores in this world. People like receiving rewards for a job well done. If a woman fantasizes about being a hooker, chances are a big part of her fantasy is that the guy gives her a big tip for pleasuring him.

* A three way: This is common for both men and women. Two people can pleasure better than one. The most common fantasy is where a man is doing her from behind while another man licks her clitoris.

* Having two partners in bed, doubles the pleasure. Makes the evening more enjoyable. This goes for women as well as it does for men. If she wants you to do this, do it if you are comfortable. If the idea of another man banging your girlfriend is okay with you, do it until your hearts content. If on the other hand she is just a piece of ass you are banging for the fun of it, go for it. She might as well have some fun too.

* Being the man of the hour: This one might catch you a little off guard. This is one of the more popular fantasies women have. Most say that they want to use a strap on dildo and have sex with their male partner.

I don't think it is as much about the sex as it is the power. The feeling of having a penis and using it. Feeling him squabble when she sticks the fake penis in his anus. It is about power. Some women want that power.

These are some tips that you can use to spice up your sex life. If she isn't willing to do these things, then don't force her. Fantasies are about making sex more enjoyable, not making it a living hell. Listen to your partner and know your boundaries. This will make for better sex.

 

 

The Female Orgasm

Peter James
Something you might not know is that not all women experience orgasm at all, and even less during intercourse. For a variety of reasons, many women do not masturbate. The clitoris does not make its presence felt as does the penis, and upon reaching sexual maturity, the female body does not experience erections or wet dreams. A lot has been said about the female orgasm. One thing of which you can be certain is that a guy who knows a lot about getting his partners off is a guy who will have his sexual partners eagerly coming back for more. Things just work out this way so why not try to make both parts happy?

Women need more
Unlike most men, who find themselves excited when seeing an attractive nude female body, very few women are not triggered by seeing a nude male. And seeing a close-up of genitals is very unlikely to excite any woman. They're just different that way, both genetically and culturally. No doubt that is why men spend so much time at strip clubs, where strip shows for women are more of a novelty. This is also why there are not more nude male mags for women.

Women need mental stimulation to achieve orgasm - especially their first time. Every woman is different in what exactly turns them on, but a lot of women also require a feeling of connection with their partner.

Whether or not your partner has come before or not, it is usually not as easy for women to experience an orgasm. It takes an average of twenty minutes for a woman to reach orgasm, and interruption in her mood can completely derail this process. Sure, some girls can come in a few minutes, but they are not the norm.

A lot of people ask the question "who is responsible for the woman's orgasm?" Ultimately both partners are probably responsible. Let's face it - guys aren't built the same, and if women keep them guessing about what to do, it may not get done right.

On the other hand, a lot of men seem to feel that sticking their penis in their partner should be enough. The truth is that it very rarely is enough, and the men that believe this are usually guilty of willful ignorance.

Meet the clitoris
The primary trigger for most female orgasms is the clitoris, a small nub of flesh outside and just to the front of the vagina. In many intercourse positions, the clitoris is not touched in any way, making orgasm literally impossible for most women. For most women to come during intercourse, there must be some contact with the clitoris. In most cases, this can easily be achieved by the man's pubic bone.

Even easier, either the man or the woman can gently masturbate the woman by lightly rapidly rubbing her clitoris only after she is already excited. The main function of foreplay is to get the partners excited and to allow the female to lubricate. Many men who rush through foreplay because they are anxious to fuck miss part of the point - it takes a woman longer to become excited. If you routinely rush your partners through foreplay, they will not be excited, will very rarely if ever have orgasms with you, and will not look forward to more sex with you with a sense of anticipation.

For women who are uncomfortable with masturbation, a vibrator can be held on the clitoris. Also a stream of water from a bathtub or hot tub can be a great way for a woman to come.

The tongues have it
Most women's favorite sexual activity is not intercourse, it is cunnilingus - pussy eating. The softer, smooth surface of the tongue is very well suited to the very sensitive clitoris. Where fingers can irritate, your tongue is a perfect tool to bring your partner to bliss and keep her there.

If you want your partners to come back for more, remember to slow down the foreplay so they're ready when you are, and make sure that they are satisfied as well as you are... And your partners will come back for more!

Women Who Fake

Peter James

"I have been married for 20 years. My wife just told me that she has never experienced an orgasm when we were together, but she didn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt my feelings. I don't know what to think. I love my wife, but she's been hiding this from me for more than 20 years! Why wouldn't she just tell me?" A lot of women fake orgasm. Some women in their 40's or 50's have been faking with their husbands for the entire duration of their marriages. Almost every woman has faked it at least a time or two. Which means that almost every man has experienced a woman orgasming who wasn't...

Why do women fake?

Some do it to avoid disappointing their partner. Some women wish to avoid continued intercourse, and fake orgasm to bring things to a conclusion. A lot of women are given the message that they are "less than" women if they do not have an orgasm. Some women realize that their partner is really trying and want to reward his efforts even though they didn't come. Some women are afraid of damaging their partner's ego... Let's face it, some men DO feel mighty sensitive if his partner doesn't come.

Can a man tell if a woman fakes an orgasm?

The best way to tell if a woman has faked an orgasm is by the way she acts afterwards. Women usually take a couple minutes to "come down" after good sex and an orgasm. If the woman you're with is immediately peppy and full of energy, she might be faking it. Most women like to cuddle after sex, but a woman who does not orgasm often does not feel as cuddly. In fact, she's often rather energetic at a time where all that energy does not make sense - right after you made love. She may want to make coffee, or do a little cleaning. She will not feel close with you, and she won't feel relaxed. As sexual tension builds, so does adrenaline. When we orgasm, the body releases chemicals that relax the tension. That is why men often fall asleep, and women seem dazed and dreamy right afterwards. A man or woman who has felt sexual tension build and has not experienced release will still be under the influence of the adrenaline.

"Was it good for you?"

Paradoxically enough, if you're not sure if your partner really came, and you ask her "honey, was it good for you?", you will often only irritate her. Even worse would be to ask her "Did you come?" We all like to feel that our partners are paying attention to what we're feeling and experiencing in sex. It is harder to read women because their orgasms do not include ejaculation - no woman needs to ask "honey, did you come?" because she knows he did. Although communication is the key to resolving this situation, it often never gets addressed. For one thing, a lot of men are very sensitive about their bedroom skills, and are likely to respond with defensiveness or anger when told that their partner did not orgasm. These men often either blame the woman ("you're not woman enough" or simply make sure she knows that it isn't his fault by making regrettable statements ("my OTHER partners had no complaints". If your partners are comfortable enough with you, you can determine more of what they really feel. But if you want your partners to trust you enough to communicate, you must be careful not to belittle or blame. Remember that it is harder for a woman to achieve orgasm, and that this is not your fault. Most likely she does not think it is your fault, either. She just feels sort of let down.

What can I do?

You can make yourself an accessible person to your partners. Make sure that you never say insulting or belittling things to them. You can simply tell them that you DO care how they feel but you cannot always tell if they have had an orgasm. Let them know that you will be more than happy to do whatever will make it easier to come, and that if they don't fake it, it would help you to know what they do and don't like. Point out that if they DO fake it, and if you can't tell, it doesn't mean you don't care but it DOES mean that you won't know. If it's something as simple as taking more time, you're home free. Just extend the foreplay. If it's that she needs a different position, or only experiences orgasms with oral sex, that is certainly something you can work on. Always let your partners know that you want them to experience as much pleasure as you do, and that you would like to know what you do that feels good, or that they don't care for. Let them know that you won't have hurt feelings, and it will help you to please them.

If a woman you're with fakes it after you have sincerely communicated this to her, it is her issue and not anything to do with you. If you find sex a way to share and communicate pleasure, and your partners know this, it should be good every time, even if one of you doesn't always orgasm.

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